To all you single mamas out there – I bow to you. I have no idea how you do it. MJ is out of town for four days on business and, while I like to think I can keep things totally under control, it’s not happening. Exhibit A: The Ice Cream Disaster. I took my oldest to her soccer party at a local ice cream parlor this evening. I’m flying solo with two kids and this is the mess that occurred with Little A while I left her eating ice cream for 1 minute so I could take pictures of the soccer team. Yes, she has purple ice cream all over her nose, mouth, neck, shirt, and pants. I need to watch this little one at all times.
To make things worse, I went temporarily insane a few weeks ago and decided I would throw a tie dye birthday party for my oldest this weekend. Seriously, what was I thinking? I now have to figure out how to cover my entire kitchen in plastic to avoid tie dye splatter. To add to the already-existing stress of my temporary single parenthood, my oldest’s birthday is on Halloween so I volunteered to bring food for 23 kids to her school’s “Harvest Party” on Thursday. So, while MJ enjoys entertaining clients in Vegas, of all places, I will be doing the following:
- Making food for 23 kids (I have no idea what I’m bringing yet)
- Buying plastic tarps to cover my kitchen
- Making a birthday cake
- Wrapping presents
- Setting up my dining room for 10 kids to eat cake and ice cream
- Buying t-shirts and tie dye supplies
- Giving Little A multiple baths due to her susceptibility to messes
- Work full-time
I digress. And, yes, I bring this stress on myself when I go crazy and volunteer to do things I don’t have time to do.
In all seriousness, while MJ travels, I think a lot about what it must be like without a partner. One of the mothers of a little girl on my oldest’s soccer team pared this down even further for me when she explained that she is not a divorced parent, she is a single parent. With divorced parents, there are usually two parents sharing responsibilities at different times. This mother explained that she is a single parent, with no father in the picture.
This particular single mother was brave enough to ask for help when she needed it. She sent an email to the entire email list of soccer parents asking for help in transporting her daughter to practice on days when her son had another commitment at the same time. A parent stepped up and her little girl made it to every practice.
I solute you single parents.